I am a minimalist by heart. I don’t live in a minimalistic home, because I share my home with others who also have the right to exist in there own way. But I have minimalistic values, and I live by them every day. In this article I wanna share with you, what minimalism means to me, and how this mindset can reveal if your mindset work for or against your weight loss goal. This is based on my own reflections and experience, and it’s just for inspiration. We all have to find our own way 🙂
I don’t own a lot of stuff, and I don’t buy things I don’t need. It makes sense to me to buy less stuff and have more money to go out with friends. Going out with friends adds value to my life.
I don’t really window shop anymore. It’s not because I don’t allow myself to do it. I just don’t want to. I don’t dream of expensive clothes and fancy plates anymore. There´s nothing wrong with those things if they truly add value to your life. They just don’t add value to mine. To me, minimalism isn’t about restricting yourself of stuff. It’s about understanding what adds value to your life.
Over many years I have learned to feel valuable. Not valuable in the eyes of anyone, but valuable because of who I am and because I exist. I truly feel worthy and good enough no matter what I own (or lack), and regardless of my strengths and weaknesses.
I am a valuable but imperfect person, and that’s okay.
Feeling like this have definitely changed my desire to shop and to own expensive stuff that comes with responsibility like expensive dresses (that I’m scared to spill on), plates (that takes a long time to save up to, and restrict me of money to go out with my friends) and a house (that’s expensive and time consuming to maintain).
My mindset have changed from “I really want this because it makes me appear cool, but can’t afford it”, to “I don’t want it because I’d rather have money for experiences”.
Do you see the difference? Either way, I say no to myself. But now I make an active choice to have more money for experiences because they add more value to my life. I don’t victimize myself or give the materialistic things the power to make me feel good about myself. Feeling good about myself is my choice to make, and it shouldn’t be influenced by anything I own.
It’s the same with food. If you think that a box of cookies will make you happy, you are giving the cookies your power. They might give you relief in the moment, but they are not a long-term happiness strategy.
Restriction is never the answer. Not in your diet or in any other aspect of your life. Restriction in your diet is likely to cause binge eating or a snack attacks. But understanding why you want to buy stuff or to eat specific foods, can teach you very valuable lessons about how you feel about yourself. If you need expensive clothes to feel good about yourself, you probably don’t feel good about yourself. If you want expensive clothes because you can afford it and you deserve it, that’s a different and more self loving thought pattern.
Just like comfort food and processed food, materialistic things and impulse buying, can relief difficult negative emotions about yourself short term. But the relief is usually replaced by discomfort and a guilty conscience.
I recommend that you practice turning your mindset into something that acknowledge your progress and push you forward instead of throwing you back.
Turn: “I feel so spineless, because I can’t succeed a lifestyle change for more than 1 week.”
Into: “It’s been hard to find the right strategy for my lifestyle change. But it’s okay, I’ve already found a new favorite weight loss dish, and I will move forward from here”.
PS: I don’t want you to read this and feel distressed about not beeing “positive enough” or not having the right mindset. Learning positive thinking is a long process. We are all on our own journey, and you will get there in your own time.